Expectations and Disappointments

At what age are men ready for adult relationships? Are we, as women, unrealistic in our expectations?

I've been thinking about that a lot lately. Am I been unreasonable in expecting my partner to consider myself and my daughter? Or is it perfectly normal and expected for a guy to think only of his own wants and needs? Or is this just a symptom of someone who's simply not ready for a adult relationship?

This evening a friend and I asked 3 different guys with ages ranging from 19 to 34 if they were really ready for a real life adult relationship if one presented itself to them. They all answered either no or not sure. When do they know they're ready? How do they know?

Maybe I'm deluding myself and waiting for something that'll never happen? Perhaps I should just make my plans only factoring myself and my daughter into them? And anything else will be a bonus?

The BloodNinja

I found this link on a forum I frequent from time to time. Funny ass, and incredibly rude messenger conversations.

Legend of the BloodNinja

Let the paranoia run rampant!

I've been observing with interest several interactions of different people I have contact with and have come to the conclusion that I need to add another category to my list of net personalities.

The Collector:

This a person who probably has a relationship and possibly children offline, yet finds the need to acquire multiple net partners as well. Generally they aren't honest with any of them, make claims about meeting them, using the L word... Are they seriously that insecure??

Bizarre Sex Laws!

In Cali, Colombia, a woman may only have sex with her husband, and the first time this happens her mother must be in the room to witness the act.

Connecticut - "Private sexual behavior between consenting adults" is still illegal in Connecticut.

Illinois - It is illegal for a husband and wife to have sex while out hunting or fishing on their wedding day.

More bizarre sex laws!

It doesn't work anymore :(

Something I saw linked in chat that I thought I'd share...

Net personalities...

I've been online for just over 3 years now. Last night I was lieing in bed thinking about the different personalities I've met in my time here. I freely admit that I've taken some of these personalities myself at times. I thought I'd document a few...

The Cyber Whore:
These are generally people who will have cyber or text sex with pretty much anyone. Usually they have such low self esteems that they will do anything to be 'liked', even if it involves degrading themselves. My guess is that their actual real life sexual experience is very limited.


The Cereal Net Dater:
This is a person who bounces from net relationship to net relationship. Always declaring their undying love within a day or so of meeting the other person. Moving way to fast, like real feelings are so easily transferred from one person to another. Do they ever have any intention of meeting one another? Do they talk about anything other than their 'love' and cybering one another? Doubtful. Do these people have such poor social skills that they are incapable of finding a partner offline? I'm thinking that its a good possibility.

The Self Pittiers:
Aka Emotional Attention Whores. These people constantly sign in and out of MSN with nick names along the lines of 'Loser' and 'I'm an idiot'. Most of the time I feel like agreeing. You IM them and enquire what's up, they reply with something along the lines of 'My life sucks'. Well fucking do something about it then?! Try turning off the computer, getting a real job, getting out into the real world. The Cereal Net Dater becomes one of these when his/her current net relationship moves on to someone else. For about 3 days till they find someone to fill the vacancy anyways.

The Suicidal Self Harmers:
Generally the conversation goes something like 'I've blocked everyone else on my list except you and I've taken pills/am cutting myself'. Like what the hell am I supposed to do about it from the other side of the world?! In my experience things always get better anyways, so offing yourself is a weak excuse.

The Big Talkers:
You know someone like this, I'm sure. Someone who talks about how tough and hard they are online whose probably a pussy in real life. Or someone who talks about how virile and sexual they are and has probably only ever had one drunken 15 year old fumble.

Compulsive Liars:
The ones who lie about their real name, age, marital status, give out fake pictures... And when confronted about this, they lie more to cover it up. Is the real you really so horrible??

The Dead People:
Yeah, believe it or not I've actually known of two people online to fake death. This is the ultimate in attention whoreish behavior. Its really selfish too, other people get put through the ringer mourning the 'deceased'. If you don't wanna be online anymore then just fucking leave. Enough with the fucking drama.

Nikki's Baby Boy

Congratulations to Nikki and Mark on the birth of their baby boy Jarell Robert Harris-Keane. Born yesterday 14th of January at 4pm. He weighs 7lb 2oz.

Jarell was born an hour after Nikki arrived at the hospital, she had a drug free birth.

This was a surprise pregnancy for 17 year old Nikki as she'd been recently diagnosed with Polycystic Ovaries, and told it would be unlikely she'd ever be able to conceive. She had been experiencing a lot of pain and problems for years, but the doctors didn't seem to be able to figure out what was wrong with her.

So imagine her shock and surprise at discovering she was 23 weeks pregnant!

Jarell is a cousin to Latoya, who was born 6 days ago, and 8 year old Aimee.

Motherfucking Vodafone!

"From 25th January 2006 sending an international TXT message from New Zealand will cost 30¢ rather than 20¢ for Prepay customers. Don't forget national TXT messages still cost just 20¢ to send."

Totally unjustified!

How to make a Emma

Ingredients: 5 parts competetiveness 1 part humour 5 parts instinct

Method: Combine in a tall glass half filled with crushed ice. Top it off with a sprinkle of fitness and enjoy!

Username:

Personality cocktail
From Go-Quiz.com

Swimming...

Nicole has been doing swimming lessons every day this week, every day for the week prior to Christmas and will be again next week. Today they had to do the length of the pool with a cup balanced on their forehead. Shes the only child who made the whole length without it falling off. This is to get them looking at the ceiling when they're doing backstroke.

Its at time like these I miss my Mum more than ever...

Lady Norwood Rose Garden in Wellington. My brother and I scattered Mum's ashes here one night in July 1999. Seven years after she died.

...

Hurt....

Betrayed...

Yup.

Sailekia's Baby Girl

Congratulations to Sailekia and Aimee, on the birth of their daughter and sister Latoya Jade Harris. She was born at 12.10am today 8th January.

She weighs 6lb 12oz. Today is Elvis Presley's birthday. Her Koro (Maori for Grandfather) is an avid Elvis fanatic. He said that Sailekia's sister Nikki has till midnight to have her baby as well. That way both his new grandchildren would have Elvis's birthday. LOL

Sam..

We babysat Sam, the dog for 9 days while his family went on holiday. He was really good for us. He just ate a polly pocket shoe, a barbie handbag, 2 pens and a chocolate bar that Nana gave Nicole and she left on the couch.

E	Entertaining
M	Mysterious
M	Mushy
A	Arty

Name / Username:

Name Acronym Generator
From Go-Quiz.com

My space

A few weeks before Christmas I signed up for a MySpace profile thingy. I did it to post a comment on some prick's site. I've had alot of random people add me and message me, I've never paid them much attention. Yesterday I had a guy from Auckland add me, I was having a random look though his contacts. I saw a American guy who I met in the early 90s profile. Turns out that the guy who added me was someone I'd met at the same time, he was living in America at the time.

They were both pro skaters who came to Hamilton along with a New Zealand pro skater. They were there to judge the New Zealand Skate Nationals. They partied with us, smoked weed, drank ALOT and fucked most of my friends lol. I still have a picture of one of their pierced penises. LOL